val·u·a·ble ˈvaly(əw)əb(ə)l/ -a thing that is of great worth, especially a small item of personal property.
life /līf/ – the existence of an individual human being or animal.
death /deTH/ – the permanent ending of vital processes in a cell or tissue.
Exactly 7 days, and 3 hours until the overly celebrated holiday. The holiday that the world invests about 19 BILLION dollars into and in case you were wondering America spends about 17.3 billion dollars. I’m not going to lie, it’s a cute holiday, but seriously how important is this? A yearly holiday to demonstrate your love for your spouse, couple, or about anybody. As a teenage girl, I should probably be ecstatic, I mean having a valentine would be amazing, wouldn’t it be. Wrong. Yeah, I said wrong.
How many teenagers in the U.S.A. ache to have a date for Valentine’s day? How many kids are wasting money on chocolates, teddy bears, and hallmark cards? It’s cute, but it’s not right in my opinion. Valentine’s Day is an “extra” opportunity for spouses to show their undying and eternal love for each other. LOVE should not be a day on a calendar, nor a “cute” holiday. I know many teenagers who would kill to have a date on Valentine’s day or a girlfriend/boyfriend. Honestly, don’t waste your time. You might believe that you love the other person and that you can be perfect, but time isn’t always your friend. You have to mature, realize your goals, and let the other person love you. If they don’t love you then neither one of you can live a happy life, even if you think you love each other.
Now focusing on the dead bouquet. Sometimes the general idea of Valentine’s day puts those young adults and teenagers down. It makes them sad and almost depressed because they can’t have an Instagram life with their dream spouse. It’s like instead of a fresh rose bouquet, they become a dead bouquet, but they are as alive and as wonderful as ever. I’m going to paraphrase one of my favorite songs about stupid relationship goals… “Not a relationship goal poster, a Casanova. I can give you pugs, flowers, rub your shoulders. It’s corny. It only happens on the internet. A bae won’t last everyday. Love is a kiss to a gun, Love is after you realize you don’t like, but still love. Love is not a four-letter word” It’s the truth about a “perfect Instagram relationship.” Love has nothing to do with these things, true love never leaves a person. LOVE is undying, relentless affection and compromise to the person that you love.
Love isn’t selfish, and love doesn’t judge. Wait for love. Let it find you and be happy without it. Love is all around you, your mom, your dad, your sibling, a friend. Let’s keep it simple.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
“I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” – Marilyn Monroe
“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” – Robert A. Heinlein
Don’t be sad because a special someone hasn’t met you
cheap /CHēp/-worth more than its cost
Well that’s me and what seems to be a cheap plastic camera (plus the plastic camera filter for mac because why not). It’s not cheap, maybe its plastic, but not cheap. By appearance it’s not the most luxurious piece of equipment that I own, nonetheless it’s one of my favorites.
I’m not going to lie… I received this camera as a Christmas present and rapidly judged it by its appearance. It didn’t seem to have much potential or aesthetic appeal. Next to some of my antiques and “more professional” cameras it seemed to lack power and buttons. Once my research was done I was astounded, this was a one of a kind lomography (creative kind of photography) camera with a story behind it.
*all credit to the unknown photographer*
I guess I forgot to not judge a book by its cover. Now how many times do we do this? I had a flip phone a few years ago and I thought it was the worst phone ever (it kinda is though), and then, I got a smartphone and quickly realized that that little plastic phone that I had once owned had better signal than my so-called “smartphone.” Just like the camera, I was quick to judge the little phone. Although it seemed like a silly little mistake, it was a bit deeper than just that. Through the lens of my camera (heh) I realized that sadly this is done everyday by people around the world about subjects more important than a plastic camera.
Judging is a huge problem and can lead to bullying, arguments, and unexplained hatred. Both girls and guys are fully guilty of doing this, young and old . Now judging isn’t always bad. You need your sense of judgement to make wise choices and ultimately protect yourself. The problem is when you start to judge without any knowledge on the subject. If you’ve never tasted vinegar then how can you tell me it tastes bad? The same goes for people around us, our minds have been trained to quickly label people with simply a word. Some of these words can be as simple as; child, adult, sister, etc. But my fellow teenagers let’s be honest, how many times do we see a person and only think “well that’s a person”? When it comes to social areas in adolescent lives we tend to criticize a bit harsher. Labels such as player, nerd, slut, stuck-up, and others are thoughtlessly thrown around. Exactly how can you tell if a guy’s a player simply by his haircut? Yeah, it’s called stereotypes. The thought that a girl wearing a short skirt is a slut, or that a person studying is a nerd, is pure stupidity (sorry, but hey I’m being honest). We have to learn to retrain our brains and mind to not label, because unless you’re a label maker you shouldn’t be labeling. Judge people once you know their character and know what type of people you want in your life. Also make sure you judge yourself from time to time because you’re not perfect either. And no the Bible never says to not judge, it says to not think of yourself as higher because of someone’s sins.
“Speak up and judge fairly.”- Proverbs 31:9
“How would your life be different if…You stopped making negative judgmental assumptions about people you encounter? Let today be the day…You look for the good in everyone you meet and respect their journey.” – Steve Maraboli
“We’ve spent so much time judging what other people created that we’ve created very, very little of our own.” – Chuck Palanuick
I LOVE YOU (in a not weird way)
official day 1:
beau·ti·ful-of a very high standard; excellent
(For all the adults that have passed along this blog; I would honestly love if you shared this with at least 2 teenagers that you know. I believe that our generation is suffering from a major self-esteem famine. I also believe that the world will be a better place the second that one more human being loves themselves. So please do me the small favor to make our earth a better place.)
Hey, so I’ve made it to today and I would like to thank all of you guys who have read my first blog because it honestly means SO much! In case you didn’t notice, I’ve decided to do a “Friends” type of title for the blogs by using a consistent beginning of the title and using alternative endings to make each blog unique. Maybe that’s because I love Friends (the TV show by the way.)
HOLD ON! I have to actually talk about my topic. First off, I want to clarify that all of my blogs (especially this one) are completely gender-fluid, of course there will be some specific references because I’m a girl and only have experience as a girl(sorry guys.) And I will openly speak about my relationship with God with no due respect to any other religion, but also standing strong behind my belief.
Today I want to focus on body types and body positivity!!!! YAY! Okay, so either you’ve heard a bunch about this, you haven’t heard much about this, or you don’t really trust any of the positivity out there. Guys, please don’t leave yet because I truly believe that every guy and girl has the right to love their bodies and honestly accept themselves. In order to keep my guys engaged I’m going to start off with my opinion of how great guys are.
FOR ALL THE WONDERFUL GUYS OUT THERE:
You guys, I know alot of times you are accused of choosing girls based on only their looks and level of attractiveness and right now in the 21st century that is complete sexism. Although guys WERE naturally created to be visual and extremely logical, it has changed quite a bit nowadays. I WILL NOT forget to mention that unfortunately more girls are quickly judging guys based on their looks. (personal pet peeve warning.) The phrases, “he’s too skinny” “he’s not even cute” “he’s too short” and that’s just to name a few, are being carelessly thrown around. I want you wonderful guys to know and understand that all of that crap (to use a nice term because this subject makes me kind of mad) is not to any of your use. Every guy out there has at least one attribute that is a great thing, and simply needs to be found. For the guys who think they aren’t “as attractive as.” I want you to know that your physical body is not nearly as valuable as your personality and how you carry yourself. If your someone doesn’t like you, then maybe they just want an excuse to not like you and overall it isn’t worth your time because you deserve to be fully valued and loved. All of you skinny guys… I probably don’t know if you’re insecure because other guys do find smaller guys to be less masculine or if girls just don’t like you because of your weight. Weight is JUST a number. Nobody in the world can measure your loving nature, kindness, or selflessness. Use your time to consciously work on your character instead of hitting the gym to gain some muscle or lose some weight. If your short and you struggle because of stereotypes that guys have to be taller than girls in a relationship, please just forget that because somewhere a woman is going to appreciate you for your personality and least importantly, your height. For any other insecurity, I want you to know that the bravest thing that you can do is to stand against all the voices that say that you’re not the “right type” of guy, learn to love your body, and understand that your personality is the bestest thing you can every have.(Just remember that nothing is perfect and your personality can always use a tune up.)
Now sweethearts the #1 thing to know in a girl’s world is that you’re your worst enemy (along with some haters out there). Since we’ve got that cleared up, I would like to say that you’re absolutely spectacular. Okay? Okay. (Somebody is bound to get the reference) As girls (and I’m also speaking to myself) we tend to take a good look at the girl next to us and hyper-analyze every aspect of their body and in turn hyper-analyze ourselves. This hurts you more than you can imagine. Also comparing yourself to models, celebrities, and women who are universally considered “beautiful” is not healthy, don’t overdo it to yourself. Although, I must clarify that another woman’s beauty does not subtract from your beauty, this isn’t algebra. If you’re short, love yourself. If you’re “too skinny”, love yourself. If you’re “fat” (which is a horrible reason to not like or love someone), LOVE YOURSELF. I’m not sure if I’m getting my point across or what, but you have an entire galaxy of beauty in simply your eyes, if you’re a genius girl (GO GENIUS GIRLS AND ALL GIRLS) then I bet that you could figure out a formula for how many galaxies of beauty would be in a whole female. You are a beautiful creation no matter what people, social media, and our own standards say to us. Always value your character more than the amount of makeup you have, and learn that women should not be out to get each other through envy. Never try to look better just to get the attention of a guy or to make a girl envious (even if she did hurt you.) Don’t believe that you need makeup, expensive clothes, and a thin body to be beautiful. You don’t have to be a covergirl, you don’t have to weigh under 100lbs, you don’t have to wing your eyeliner, you don’t have to please the world.
FOR ALL OF US OUT THERE:
Both guys and girls should respect each other and their looks, treat others as you would like to be treated. We should hold each other up no matter what our differences are and compliment each other as often as we can. We can help this self-esteem deficit to go away, one compliment at a time. As a Christian, I highly advise working on your character alongside with the Word of God because our worth is in Him and from Him. He has created us in His image and He consistently reminds us of our worth. As long as you treat others correctly and hopefully follow God’s Word to mature your character, you’re attractiveness is simply an addition to YOU.
“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”
“You are fearfully and wonderfully made.”-Psalms 139:14
“Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself.”-Coco Chanel
“Your heart is worth 100 times more than your face.”
LET’S GET RID OF THIS SELF-ESTEEM CRISIS!
please share with someone you love
HI! So here I am and I’m super-duper excited to go along with this dream of being a photographer/blogger. I would like to introduce myself in case you don’t know me… My name is TATIANA GOMEZ and I’m a 14 year-old homeschooled dreamer. I have a 7 year-old sister, a mom, a dad, a grandpa that lives with me, two mini turtles, and an adorable baby Holland Lop rabbit which you’ll see someday. I’m a dancer, NO NOT A BALLERINA, I dance ballet, modern, jazz, lyrical, acro, and about any music that will come up at a latin party. I’m also currently taking some beginning acting and singing classes for fun. I’m obsessed with my semi-red hair, chocolate, mirrors, fashion, and a plethora of other things. I collect antique cameras, snowglobes, butterfly items, and memories. I believe in loving God and loving people along with bunnies :))) Ummmmm. Oh, I’m 100% Colombian and proud of my people. My dream career is to be a photojournalist and travel the big wide CRAZY world. I’m that person that can count my best friends on my 10 fingers and not because homeschoolers are anti-social. I love them with my whole heart. No matter how long I’ve known them (6 months-13 years), how much we fight (alot-barely ever), or how far away from them I am (4 hours-2 minutes) they have found a way into my heart and have made it into hundreds of the photographs instilled in my mind. I’m on my second time moving this year and no lie the journey was INTENSE. Poetry, along with my faith and family, was probably the saving grace during the whole process. Oh yeah, I’m also an amateur poet and American Sign Language student (that has nothing to do with anything…) I’m a shaky-handed eyeliner expert, peel-off nail artist, and injured dancer to name some of the IRONIES in my life. I have no idea what else to say… I don’t like mainstream music, clothes, or ideas. When it comes to music I prefer Jon Bellion (actually listening to him right now), Logic, Alessia Cara, Raury, Willow Smith, John Mayer, Andy Mineo, NEEDTOBREATHE, and Lapsley. I don’t get Geometry, like reading, and adore history. I’m not religious, but instead in a relationship with God. I promise to not externally judge you and always be a gentle butterfly with my words. I know how it feels to be bullied, no it was more than just that. I know how it feels to be rejected, how it feels to feel unloved, and how it feels to be stuck in a deep, dark hole. I get scared easily and fall in love with simplicity (I prefer the term “rise in love”). I hope that nobody sees me as perfect, and that no one uses their life to bring down other people. I’m a messed up person, but I like to think that I’m slowly falling in love with my messed-up-ness. I’m not some skinny, tumblr, rich, or flawless goddess. I’m a kinda messy, personally broke, oily-skinned, frizzy-haired, crazy-maniac type of person. I would adore for you guys and girls to give me suggestions for topics, pictures (on vscocam and instagram)(I’m also on tumblr and my username for all of these is alljourneysmuses), and well, just know that I’m here for you and I believe in you.
YOU’RE A BEAUTIFUL HUMAN!